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Published by: Chris Kittrell Date: April 12, 2015

Who doesn’t want more in their lives? We seem to hunger for more. Maybe you would like more money, more opportunity, more vacation days, just more. As parents, we witness the introduction of more into our children’s vocabulary with simple requests for things like more ice cream or more candy. As we grow older we experience an evolution of the idea of more into complicated categories like money, success, and time. I guess on some level we’re taught or conditioned to want more. That’s not necessarily a good or bad thing; it’s just something we should be aware of in our lives.

As we consider what we want more of, we have to be cautious to not allow the thought of more to become the only desired outcome. I’ve discovered an odd fact about the concept of more in my own life. More tends to be a moving target that is continually shifting just out of my reach. You can’t quite ever grasp it. It gets bigger, better and increasingly elusive. Some people realize this early in life and some spend their lives forever frustrated by this pursuit.

For many, more can be a battle. It’s in our face all day, every day. Some days we feel like we win the battle and other days we lose miserably. What helps is precisely defining what matters most. If you’re anything like me you probably want more of the good stuff. Stuff like full relationships, financial peace and security, a healthy lifestyle, and memorable experiences with the people you love.
So now that you’ve defined exactly what you want more of in your life, I’m going to let you in on another secret I’ve discovered. More is attainable. Those full relationships you long for are possible.

The financial peace you dream about, it’s doable. The healthy lifestyle you’ve never quite committed to, it’s just around the corner, and the experiences with your family are closer to realization than you think. You can have more of the good stuff BUT, there it is, the dreaded ‘but’. You knew it was coming. The ‘but’ lies in the fact, that for most of us, more of one thing means less of another. So, if I want more time with my daughters it most likely means less time pursuing a hobby. If you really value financial peace it likely means less debt or saying no to an impulsive purchase so you can build your emergency fund. If you really value experiences with your family it means saying no to that extra commitment or turning off the television and social media and being engaged.

How do you attain more of what you want in your life? By committing to the idea of lessening the things that distract, that pull us off course, and that devalue our time and money. More is a great motivator but must be tempered with the discipline of a plan and the ability to find peace with where you are in its pursuit.

Chris Kittrell is co-founder and Senior Advisor at Rather & Kittrell. He is available at